When Bruce Willis appeared as John McClane in the first Die Hard movie in 1988, he played an unstoppable off-duty New York police officer. No matter what came his way, McClane was able to take it on and still get the bad guys. At one point he ended up walking barefoot on broken glass. He was still able to get through it without even a second thought.
Yes, this was a movie and not real life, but when my father fell off a small step ladder while taking down the Christmas tree lights at my sister’s house, he was bleeding out of his ear and he shattered his ankle into enough pieces that he needed a piece of metal permanently implanted. While it is certainly easy enough to make the distinction between fact and fiction, it seems that other than obvious superhero movies based on comic book heroes, some of these depictions of men in movies may have finally crossed the line of no return.
How many movies have we watched where the bad guy is hunted down, shot at, and is left for dead only to have him miraculously reappear when we least expect it. Does this make him more of a man? Does it make you less of a man?
There are movies where men do act strong in more emotional ways than physical, but they quickly get categorized as “chick flicks.” In the romantic tear jerker The Notebook, the husband stood by his wife’s side all the way to old age and while she was suffering from dementia. That is what men should be aspiring to but do guys just brush it off and make jokes so they don’t have to think that deeply about a true act of love in action?
While action movies are exciting to watch they are obviously exaggerated. But that is sometimes what entertainment is all about. It’s just too bad that some young guys see this stuff and think it’s cool and aspire to be like some of these over-the-top characters. Have any of these types of movies made you feel inferior based on the unbelievable feats achieved by the main character?
If you have a solid grasp of what is meant to be entertaining, while totally fictional, you probably take it with a grain of salt. But if you are suffering from low esteem as it is, watching a superhero in action could make you feel even less confident in yourself.
Try not to compare yourself with other people in general, and certainly not any fictional portrayals in the movies. Everyone has their insecurities whether you want to believe it or not. Just work on yourself and don’t let anything get in the way of building your own self esteem.
Find a role model in your real life who you can talk to for advice. Set goals for yourself and set your own standards of what it is to be a real man.